Sunday, June 8, 2014

Swing and a miss, then a grand slam!

I was so excited to do the cake tasting that I deliberately stalled on it....and then the middle/back end of the semester started and I just FORGOT!

Our venue, Willowdale is known for their extremely rigid and strict vendor vetting.  So far every vendor I have gone to off their list has not only be top notch professional with incredible portfolios of work, but I have also managed to hit it off interpersonally with them.

We had our first cake tasting yesterday at Fredericks which is Willowdale's new preferred vendor.  We arrived and they immediately launched into business and the design, which threw me off.  I like a little "getting to know you" song and dance since I do make a lot of my decisions based on whether or not I like the person.

After some awkward discussion around design, I finally asked if we could taste their cakes and they plopped in front of us this:


 Yes, that is actually their "purple velvet" cake in the upper left hand corner...the picture doesn't even do it justice as to how artificially purple it is.  They had an almond pound cake, the purple velvet, a golden vanilla and then their chocolate.  The fillings were lemon, strawberry and raspberry and also a chocolate, peanut butter and mocha.

As soon as I took a bite out of the cake I knew I didn't like it.  It was entirely too dense and waaay too sweet.  I asked them if that was how all their cakes were and they said yes.  Then Chris asked if they made their own filling and they begrudgingly said they didn't.  We asked about some other flavors and since they don't make their own fillings, they couldn't accommodate us.  So now they can't do my design nor can they do my flavors.  They did bring out a pomegranate-lime and lime...the lime which looked exactly like the goo you see people slimed with on Nickelodeon, not exactly appetizing.

Chris said that he knew I didn't like them when I gave him total creative control.  He also complained that their cakes had little/no flavor and all the fillings just completely overwhelmed them.  I just didn't really like the lady I dealt with.  The apprentice that was learning was funny and I liked her, but she wasn't leading the consultation.  I also am not that proud to admit that I wasn't the nicest to them.  Nothing like recognizing my Immunity to Change in FULL SWING in action, but that's for my personal/professional blog :)

I was so unbelievably disappointed because as time has grown closer, my stress level has ratcheted up significantly and I just wanted to make decisions.  Luckily an old friend who lives in the same town we're getting married in recommended Topsfield Bakeshop.  Additionally when I sent an email to my wedding coordinator, she ALSO recommended them.  So, I promptly called and scheduled and appointment for today.

I was a little alarmed when she said they only did one tasting a month and that there wasn't one before our wedding but we could meet.  When we arrived the bakery smelled amazingly of chocolate and then we got handed this plate of cookies.  Clockwise from the top we have: Lemon with lemon curd filling, Opera Cake, Carrot Cake with a Orange Cream Cheese filling, and Chocolate Whoopie with Salted Caramel


As soon as I bit into the chocolate with the salted caramel and I KNEW this was the place.  I normally hate chocolate and I rarely like caramel and this was so delicious I ate more!  I wanted it for my cake!  Each one was delicious and wonderful.  Then Mary came out and she was so personable and open.  We eventually found out that one of her three sons actually works for our DJ company which made me feel like it was a sign that this was right.  She also raved about our photographer (literally everyone I met has spoken about how amazing he is both as a person and as a professional).

In addition to her wonderful (WONDERFUL) baking, which they make all on site and totally from natural ingredients (they are a test kitchen for a French vanilla company - yum yum!) was also that she was totally collaborative when it came to the design and also the flavor profiles.  We wanted to do a lilikoi curd filling and where Frederick's couldn't even entertain it, she was visibly excited about it and now wants to experiment with curds and mousses.

But it got even better.  The room where we met also had pictures of the other baked goods they've done for weddings: macaroons, iced cookies and they are most known for their Whoopie Wagon (whoopie pies).  Chris mentioned he was confused about macaroons and she told us all about different kinds and then BROUGHT OUT A WHOLE PLATE OF THEM.


This was just the beginning of our sugar coma.  She also had us sample her lime cheesecake and her whoopie pies. Then she brought out a whole mini cake of the cannoli cake and GAVE IT TO US.

She's so attentive to detail, so sweet, her baking is so delicious (even Chris, who NEVER eats sweets, loved it... I kept seeing him out of the corner of my eye, eating more.  He actually broke a fork eating), and she just made the whole experience wonderful...so even though she quoted me at the same price that I completely balked at when Frederick's quoted us, I didn't hesitate to put down the deposit.

I am so excited that not only I think our cake will be stunning to look at, but most importantly to us...it will be SO YUMMY!

Our flavors are: Vanilla chiffon cake filled with fresh strawberries and Chantilly cream as well as layers of lilikoi mousse (!); the chocolate whoopie with the salted caramel; and the cannoli.  We just need to make sure we can have a cake bar rather than cake served with the coffee.

Hope we all feast on cake in a few weeks :)

P.S. I reached out the the Hawaiian Vanilla Company and within hours I had a response from their owner who is ready and willing to make our vanilla and lilikoi dreams come true.  He's the best.  I can't recommend the Hawaiian Vanilla Co. more, they are such an amazing family AND their food is so delicious.

Impulsive Shopping

Whenever I travel, I give myself permission to be a little more extravagant than normal.  For example, I usually will only buy magazines in airports.  Recently I got to return to Hawai'i (which is another blog post to come!) and of course I had to do some shopping.  However this Hawai'i trip was marked by some random impulsive buys which are a huge cry from my usual magazine splurge...

My first impulse buy was at Ala Moana.  I happened to see the La Perla store and knowing only that they sold lingerie, I wandered in.  Whoa, I had no idea how EXPENSIVE La Perla is.  But I thought I'd try on some potential honeymoon lingerie.

In the dressing room across from me there was a man and his wife.  They must have either had a lot of money or they were just terrible with money because the woman kept complaining about how she already had something.  With $100 for just a thong, I couldn't wrap my head around how much money she must spend on underwear!  And awkwardly enough I kept hearing the man's commentary, especially when he'd remark how much he loved something on her...was that really happening??!!

This might be overshare, but I thought it was so weird...that they had these:

What are those you ask? I had to ask too...those would be...disposable thongs.  Never heard of them, thought they were weird myself but I suppose it makes sense.  I mean if they make disposable socks, I guess it makes sense they'd make disposable underwear!

Ultimately I did find a few pretty things that will be really fun to wear which I'm excited about since, hey you only go on a honeymoon once!  But if that wasn't enough, there was a second impulse buy (I know, ridic).  While at the Wedding Ring Shop getting my engagement ring cleaned and checked, I wandered around looking at the cases.  I saw a necklace and some earrings I liked so I asked to try them on.  As soon as that necklace went on, I thought, "oh boy I'm in trouble."  They had several sets of earrings, but of course the matching ones are always the nicest and that's what I ended up getting.  I had always wanted to have my "something blue" be jewelry so that I could wear it and always have a little tangible memory since I'm so sentimental about everything.

Can't wait for you all to see (the jewelry...not the underwear)!

Sweating the Details: Veils

I didn't think veils would be so difficult to choose, but I suppose when you are as into sweating the details as I am I guess I shouldn't have been so surprised.  When I bought the dress I tried on several veils but really didn't like any of them and was completely turned off by the price.

For several months it seems I was trying to track down Jill's veil (Chris' sister).  It seemed like it'd be perfect - something borrowed, save me some money, etc.  But a few months ago I fell in love with a veil at BHDLN.  My sister and I had gone to the store to try different sizes for her bridesmaid dress and just for fun decided I should try on some of their veils.

While I've never really been the kind of bride to dream about my wedding day, I do know that whenever I did think of my wedding day I always dreamed about a lace edged veil.  There's something about it that is just so romantic.

 

The first one (on the left) is a fingertip length veil (the terminology you learn when getting married!), but the one I REALLY fell in love with was the one on the right - BHLDN's "Airy Lace Veil."  I probably looked at this picture at least 3x a week, it was ridiculous, but at $400, I just wasn't quite sure it made sense.

So I kept looking for veils.  I went to several shops and instantly disliked every one I put on my head.  I finally got Jill's veil and it isn't edged with lace.  Every place I went to was overwhelmingly full of beaded and bedazzled veils - totally not my thing.  And if they did have lace veils the quality was shockingly poor.  I was beginning to understand that pricing structure of veils.

One day I was on Newbury St. (A really expensive shopping street in Boston) and knowing I was asking for trouble, I wandered into L'Elite which is basically THE expensive bridal salon in THE expense shopping district Boston.  Of course I fell in love with a veil...sometimes I am my own worst enemy.



I showed my attendant/salewoman (on my phone, on Pinterest!) the BHDLN veil I was so in love with.  She said that with a garden wedding that a fingertip length veil is better because it doesn't drag on the ground and with the length it's much easier to wear beyond the ceremony (i.e. during the reception).  It made a lot of sense.

Then I asked the question I had been dreading...How much was the veil?  A mind numbing $560.  What a joke! As an unemployed, doctoral student that was waaay out of reach.  But then my attendant whispered that she could make it for less and wrote down a few numbers.

Uncertain whether this woman really had the chops, I went to her house and saw some veils she had in progress and she really did make beautiful veils.  Then the fantasy prone side of me just took off...a custom veil, handmade just for me! How incredible would that be?  She even said she would make BHLDN's veil for $300, $100 less!

The kicker was being able to look at all these samples of lace.  I even picked out a lace pattern that I not only love but also goes well with my dress.  Who knew one could be so obsessed with lace?

A shopping rule of thumb I always have is if I'm still thinking about it 24 hours later (and in this case weeks later), just buy it because I know I love it.  So suddenly I'm seriously thinking of dropping a hefty amount of money on a veil.

So I went to my second fitting with Jill's veil, the BHLDN veil and while I was there found a similar veil to the L'Elite one.  And I'm still torn, sooo torn.  It's times like this when I wish I was filthy rich and could afford both so I didn't have to make a decision.  I'm leaning towards one and need to commit soon if I want the veil to be ready in time.

So...stay tune for wedding day to see what I walk down the aisle with...maybe I'll be veil-less if I can't make up my mind!